What In A World...

In the ever-changing world of now
Living through an evolution of its own
In pursuing the wide-ranging needs
Keeping oneself distance from simplicity
Earning a life with status as eternity

Slaughtering the environment as deem as it could be
Eavesdropping, coarse cursing
Extreme thoughts, obscene conduct
Mighty the eagerness, tiny the sympathy
Isolating the hearts from being communicating
Nurturing the power of materialistic
Giving the space to worship technology

Dozens of hearts are falling
Over the shadow of lavishness
Every minute if you are counting
Sinking in the swamp of egoistic

Hide away the sincerity
Enlarging the pride and priggish
Firing the minority
Eliminating the sound of liberty
Entrusting the authorities
Legitimate the act of killing

Tearless, our nature is roaring
Helpless, the prey is revenging
Exclaiming their soundless protest
Summoning the disaster and diseases
Arousing the global warming
Manipulating the evolution over the mankind
End of the day does it imply

Thus far damage only we applied
Offering goodness should we all now subscribe
Over the time will the cosmos be revived

因为，所以。Because...

人家说幸福是要努力争取的
我努力过了吗？ 没有
因为我选择等候。。。

人家说喜欢就该大声的说出来
我说过了吗？没有
因为我选择矜持。。。

人家说缘分是上天给的，机会是创造出来的
我创造过了吗？ 没有
因为我选择逃避。。。

人家说世事无常，命运弄人
世事真的无常吗？是的
因为我得学会面对

人家说生命是短暂的
生命真的短暂吗？是的
因为我得学会珍惜

人家说人生好比舞台，每个人都是自己的导演
我主导过我的人生舞台了吗？不知道
因为我还在摸索生命的意义

人家说人间只是个修行道场，虚拟不实
人间真的虚幻吗？不知道
因为我还在寻找真理

因为等候，所以只能期待
因为矜持，所以才会错过
因为逃避，所以无法面对
因为无常，所以变化莫测
因为短暂，所以刻骨铭心
因为舞台，所以积极演出
因为虚幻，所以假以乱真

所以我拥抱单身，选择与寂寞为友
所以我面对命运，锻炼自己更勇敢
所以我学会知足，学着感恩每一天
所以我站在舞台，舞出更精彩人生
所以我处身红尘，继续修行悟真理

后记：
因感触而写出的小品，记一位刚过世的同事 – Karen.M，享年46岁。事情发生得突然，让我无所适从。在感慨世事无常的同时，基督同事安慰我说她已到天国界，回归主 – 是值得欣慰的事情，因为她无须在人世间受苦受难。死，或重于泰山，或轻于鹅毛，留下的亲友总是最痛苦的，失去至爱所承受的难过会否因时间的洗礼而康复呢？会否会因此更勇敢的活下去呢？

清明。。。Chingming Festival...

清明时节雨纷纷，
路上行人欲断魂；
借问酒家何处有，
牧童遥指杏花村。
(唐代杜牧名句)

回乡扫墓的一早，老天爷非常应景的下起了大雨。虽然没能在预定的时间内出发(下雨天特别好睡嘛~)，叔叔的超驾驶技术填补了时间上的差距，让我们在9时许抵达家乡。爸妈及几位叔叔、嫂嫂也已等候多时，在把所有扫墓工具、祭拜祖先的祭品‘搬’上车子后，大家就往几公里外的坟地出发。

去年因为在外工干而没能回乡扫墓，相隔了两年的时间，坟地的改变让我无法在第一时间内找着婆婆的安葬的地方。不过，再怎么困难，大伙很快地就找到婆婆的墓碑将工具、祭品都摆放到坟边。经由当地社团的打理下，这块坟地已明显被清理过，杂草都没有了，只有干枯的野草、坟边多余的泥土等待处理。这让我们的扫墓工作变得较为轻松，相对的也更有多时间闲聊。

祭拜过程也因时代的转变，越来越现代化了。咱们的祭品都是自家人爱吃的食物、水果，而我呢，也特地从国外买了大伙爱吃的巧可力，与婆婆‘分享’ – 好东西应该一块分享嘛！从以往冥间大楼、衣服、车子，到现在较为简单的冥间银票、过路钱等，我们已大量地减少对空气的污染，同时也不全失传统特色及对祖先的尊敬，而且还简化了燃烧的过程和等待的时间。

也不知道曾几何时，祭拜后的另一‘重要’项目就是‘野餐’时间。本以为带来的巧可力会大受欢迎，可是经过太阳的曝晒下，块状的巧可力已被溶化成水状，想吃也没法吃，只得带回家冻结后再品尝。妈妈煮的红豆甜品最受爱戴，在炎热的天气喝上一口确实有点滋润解渴的功效。饱尝了妈妈还有婶婶的手艺后，大伙才收拾一切踏上归途，而爸爸及叔叔们（还有我）则准备前往另一块坟地，祭拜往生的二姑。

清明节的意义从单纯的祭拜祖先、孝敬及缅怀过世的亲人，到今天的游子回乡，亲友相聚的日子，其含义并没有因为时代的差异而褪色，反而为传统文化增添了另一摩登的色彩。其实，就算祭拜过程有多隆重多复杂，都不该是重点；最重要的是珍惜身边健在的亲友，避免[树欲静而风不止，子欲养而亲不在]的遗憾。

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清明节(资源：中国古玩网 www.lzcc.com.cn )
中国汉族的节日，又是汉族立法中的二十四个节气之一。节期在阳历4月5日前后（夏历则在三月内）。民间习惯在这一天扫墓。清明前一天（或两天）为"寒食"，两个节令相距甚近，古人常将它们连结在一起，甚至不加以区分。宋代以后，扫墓成为清明节的主要活动。多数人家借出城扫墓的机会郊游，称为"踏青"。不少地区的男女老幼还在清明节或栽插柳树、或折新柳枝佩戴、或"斗百草"、"打秋千"、或放风筝。
现在的清明节已淡化了迷信色彩，升华成了一种精神范畴的文化。祭扫烈士英灵，缅怀故去的亲人，传承中华民族重亲情、讲孝道的传统美德。海外游子回归故里，寻根问祖，祭奠祖先，清明节已成为了维系民族感情的纽带。

我的MP3播放器。。。My MP3 Players...

Music has been part of my life ever since my early age where I was put under the spotlight to 'entertain' the audience with my voice. The training stages that I have gone through with singing competition lining up one after another, organized by various association, society or schools, had further cultivate my interest towards music. Which then I had requested to go through the proper music training - not vocal, but the instrument named electone or better known as 'organ'. It was only last for a short period of time which I had stopped due to the formal/ compulsory examination set by government for all Form 3 students, and had never continued since then :P

My passion towards music had never stop even my time had been occupied with studies, community services, co-curricular activities, and now job-related work and project. Have given the opportunity to learn about music composing, production when I was in university which exposed me to the process of producing a song. However, had never thought of getting a job that could continue my journey with music - have opted to be a spectator than a participant ^_^

With the advancement of technology, I could now enjoy music with no boundary - with the introduction of walkman, CD player, MD player, to MP3 players which one could carry few thousands songs conveniently anytime, anywhere. Working in a Telco company that exposed me to various types of handphones, had further ‘revealed’ me to the use of mobile phones as MP3 player.

My first 'MP3 player' was Nokia 6230 which served as my mobile and camera in the same time. Have fully utilized it with various function that it supported - my favorite one, which had proven its worth of value. Until, it quietly slipped out of my pocket and bid me a BIG goodbye :C

My next mobile - Nokia 6630 had replaced my lost 6230 with all its functionality - added with its 3G-compatible specs, until I left the Telco company to China which had discontinued me from using its 3G services. Compromising with its battery life and storage capacity (which I later found out its 'limited' compatability to external memory card in the market), I had 'survived' with its quality as a player for another few months before going for a 'real' MP3 player.

My first MP3 player - Creative MuVo V200 with its 1GB storage capacity had allowed me to carry more songs while I'm mobile. Also, serving as 'thumbdrive' that enabled me to transfer files from one machine to another - which had further 'damaged' it. Leave with no choice, I had to send it back for repair. While waiting for the 'returning' of MuVo, I had got myself the 5GB Creative Zen Neeon to accompany me through the sleepless nights.

With the new MP3 player that could store more songs (in fact much, much more ^_^), I was so excited till I forgot the lesson learnt - I had again used it as thumbdrive which resulting into the same dilemma. It was sent for the necessary 'fixing'!! :( Surviving without any music for many nights, I had finally settled to its core function and try to 'minimize' the unnecessary usage, if possible :P - have been wondering, did I really learn from the lesson? ^_<

My business trip to US with my 'resourceful' colleague had finally brought my eyes to the famous US product - Apple Ipod, which I was once amazed by its branded-with-price advertisement when I was a marketer. After playing around with it, I had decided to bring the white one home - couldn't resist with its stylish outlook, not mentioning about its bigger capacity :) With 30GB in storage, I have no idea how to make FULL use of it, despite the fact that I could use it for music storage, photo storage, and video storage - not sure about using it as thumbdrive, yet, well, won't explore that usage till I am sick with the rest of the function :P, i guess (at least for this moment in time ^_<)

我病了。。。Falling Sick

今早起身后，发觉头重重地，全身疼痛，双脚踩在地上却感觉到轻飘飘地，在万般无奈下，我只好接受一个事实-- 我的健康围墙在过去几个星期的折腾下，终于瓦解了-- 我生病了！

过往的经验告诉我，在紧张忙碌的生活节奏逝去的那一刹那，只要我有稍微的放松，我的健康状况都会亮红灯。人家说这是天生命贱，没有多少机会享受悠闲的生活，因为在休息的当儿，也不管我愿不愿意，病菌都将拿我开刀。

算算看，也好久没病成这个样子了，过去的一年里，除了一两次的伤风咳嗽外，也没试过这般的不适。或许前阵子的劳累，都在潜意识中慢慢地累积，只是我都坚强地‘挡’过了吧。好不容易挨过了，身心疲惫的迹象却在今早一一显露。是年龄的问题（打死我都不愿意承认）？还是是时候病了？老天爷或许知道，再过几个星期，我的生活节奏又将进入另一个颠覆状况。或许我该乖乖听话，好好地休息，为下一个沙场做另一个冲刺。

Shell Life (Part 8: 12-28Feb: Bangalore, India Trip)

After the tiring 24-hour journey from KL to Houston, haven't recovered fully from the jet lag, I was asked to get myself over to Bangalore on my 6th day in Houston. Getting myself into the tiredness, busyness had been the only thing I could recall throughout my Houston trip. And yet, another last minute trip was requested, which marked another key milestone of my Shell life, after 5 months with the company.

The whole trip from KL to Houston, Houston to Bangalore (transit through Frankfurt) reminds me of my previous job - challenging, dynamic, ever-changing, and restless working environment! Working through long hours, which left only less than 8 hours of 'resting' time in Hotel - including breakfast, dinner, shower, sleeping, I had spent almost 16 hours on the road, working (like dogs), meeting (or sometimes arguing), sleeping (when too tired, haha), eating (ofcourse I'd feel hungry) etc... Luckily I was here with the whole team, which made the trip more delightful.

On the road experience had never been a good one for me with poor traffic condition in Bangalore. The 30+km journey from hotel ended up taking an hour or plus to arrive our destination, the vendor's office which located in Electronic City. With 2 lanes road being occupied by light (motorbike, tri-motorbike, cars) and heavy vehicles (trucks, busses), animals (a herd of duck! cows, horses, donkeys, dogs), pedestrian, or whatever moving object that you could imagine, the traffic could never be a 'quiet' or 'smooth' one. Reckless drivers were all on the road, 'fighting' against each other to beat the traffic condition - or rather trying to get to their destination earlier. Our cab drivers (we rented 3 cars from travel house) who have plenty on the road experience (one being the ambulance driver before) in Bangalore were very 'competitive' with the environment where they knew lots of shortcut around the town, 'sliding' through the small gap (forming up the 3rd lane), honking & flashing throughout the journey. Luckily I am the type of person who can sleep in the car which had helped avoiding me from seeing those reckless scenes.

Never been easy for any food other than Chinese food (or rather, home-cooked food), my appetite was challenged with the variety of India food around - all with different type of spices to make the food 'look' and 'taste' good (so-called). Nevertheless, we did enjoy our in-the-room dinner (or supper, since we reached our hotel at almost 11pm, or close 12am sometimes) with special program at certain channels that would never be available in our home country. Never forget the massaging chair available in our suite (sharing with another female colleague of mine), it became one of reason why our room became the gathering spot everynight - for dinner, tv (programmes), and massaging.

Had been working through my first weekend in Bangalore, where getting the application ready by time had become our top priority inspite of Shell's 'Work Life Balance' principal. Nonetheless, our hard work and effort had been seen and recognized when we were given off for our 2nd weekend to tour around the city.

Check out the 2-day complimentary trip!

59个爱的钥匙 59 Keys to Love Discovery

1）不要为了寂寞去恋爱，时间是个魔鬼，天长日久，如果你是个多情的人，即使不爱对方，到时候也会产生感情，到最后你怎么办？

2）不要为了负责而去结婚。要知道，不爱对方却和对方结婚是最不负责的。即使当时让对方很伤心，但是总比让他几年甚至一辈子伤心强。

3）不管多大多老，不管家人朋友怎么催，都不要随便对待婚姻，婚姻不是打牌，重新洗牌要付出巨大代价。

4）感情的事基本上没有谁对谁错，他（她）要离开你，总是你有什么地方不能令他满足，回头想想过去在一起的日子，总是美好的。当然，卑劣的感情骗子也有，他们的花言巧语完全是为了骗取对方和自己上床，这样的人还是极少数的。

5）和一个生活习惯有很多差异的人恋爱不要紧，结婚要慎重，想想你是否可以长久忍受彼此的不同。

6）有人说恋爱要找自己喜欢的人，结婚要找喜欢自己的人，都是片面的。恋人不喜欢自己有什么可恋的？老婆自己不喜欢怎么过一辈子？

7）真爱一个人，就要尽量让他开心，他开心了你就会开心，那么双方就有激情了。

8）在要求对方必须是处女的时候，想想自己是不是处男，如果是，你可以，如果不是，你凭什么？

9）不要随便和别人上床，否则将来遇到一个真爱但他洁身自好有原则男人，你会后悔当年的所做所为。

10）不要因为自己长相不如对方而放弃追求的打算，长相只是一时的印象，真正决定能否结合主要取决于双方的性格。我见过的帅哥配丑女，丑女配帅哥太多了。

11）女人要学会扮靓自己，不要拿朴素来做挡箭牌，不要拿家务做借口，不懂时尚，你就不是一个完整的女人。

12）恋爱的时间能长尽量长。这最少有两点好处：一，充分，尽可能长的享受恋爱的愉悦，婚姻和恋爱的感觉是很不同的。二，两人相处时间越长，越能检验彼此是否真心，越能看出两人性格是否合得来。这样婚后的感情就会牢固得多。

13）男人不坏，女人不爱，这坏不是指心肠狠毒，自私无情什么的。而是指油嘴滑舌，花言巧语。一般的好男人以为说情话是油嘴滑舌，轻浮肉麻的表现，所以不愿去做。对别人这样说是不对，可是对自己老婆，就要油嘴滑舌一点。为什么不能做个心好嘴滑的男人呢？

14）离婚率高至少反映了好坏不同的两点：好的一点是人的观念已经趋向人性化，不再为封建思想而禁锢自己，坏的一点是对于婚姻的轻率。没想好结什么婚？

15）都说婚姻是爱情的坟墓，那是因为婚前已经往去坟墓的路上走着。就算不结婚也会在坟墓前分手。为什么不先分手就一头钻进坟墓呢？

16）只会读书的女人是一本字典，再好人们也只会在需要的时候去翻看一下，只会扮靓的女人只是一具花瓶，看久了也就那样。服饰美容是做好一个女人的必要条件，不是充要条件。你还需要多看书。这样你会发现生活更加美好。

17）平平淡淡才是真，没错，可那应该是激情过后的平淡，然后再起激情，再有平淡。激情平淡应呈波浪形交替出现。光有平淡无激情的生活有什么意思？只要你真心爱他，到死你也会有激情的。
18）你爱他么？爱就告诉他，何必把思念之苦藏在心底深处。怕样子，地位，身份不相配？别怕，爱一个人是美好的。

19）老婆和老妈掉进了河里，我先救老妈，因为是老妈给了我生命，我找不到任何理由丢下她不管。老婆如果没救上来，我可以再给她陪葬，在墓里继续我们的爱情。

20）草率地结了婚已经是错了，再也不要草率地去离婚。先试试看，真的不行再离也不迟。

21）经常听说男人味女人味，你知道男人味是一种什么味道，女人味又是一种什么味道吗？男人味就是豁达勇敢，女人味就是温柔体贴。

22）魅力是什么？魅力不是漂亮，漂亮的女人不一定能吸引我，端庄幽雅的女人我才喜欢。所以你不用担自己不够漂亮。

23）初恋都让人难忘，觉得美好。为什么？不是因为她（他）很漂亮或很帅，也不是因为得不到就是好的，而是因为人初涉爱河时心里异常纯真，绝无私心杂念，只知道倾己所有去爱对方。而以后的爱情都没有这么纯洁无瑕了。纯真是人世间最为可贵的东西。我们渴求的就是她。

24）初恋的人大多都不懂爱，所以初恋失败的多，成功的少。结婚应该找个未婚的，因为虽都喜欢原装。而恋爱，还是找个恋爱过的人才好。因为经历过恋爱的人才知道什么是爱，怎么去爱。

25）男人有钱就变坏，是的，很多男人这样，不过，一有钱就变坏的男人就算没钱，也好不到哪里去。

26）一个男人能不能给你安全感，完全不取决于他的身高，而是取决于他的心高。高大而窝囊的男人我见过不少。矮小而昂扬的男人我也见过。一个男人要心高气傲，这样才像男人。当然，前提是要有才华。

27）天长地久有没有？当然有！为什么大多数人不相信有？因为他们没有找到人生旅途中最适合自己的那一个。也就是冥冥中注定的那一个。为什么找不到？茫茫人海，人生如露，要找到最合适自己的那一个谈何容易？你或许可以在40岁时找到上天注定的那一个，可是你能等到40岁吗？在20多岁时找不到，却不得不结婚，在三四十岁时找到却不得不放弃。这就是人生的悲哀。

28）为什么生活中很少见到传说中天长地久，可歌可泣的爱情故事？因为这样的感情非常可贵，可贵的东西是那么好见到的么？金子钻石容易见到吗？

29）恋爱时感性点，过日子理性点，穿衣服性感点。

30）性感是什么？坦胸露乳么？那路边没穿衣服的女丐性感不？性感不是仅仅指衣服穿得少，而是该种性别焕发出来与另一种性别迥然不同的特质。一个衣着讲究，端庄优雅的女人我一样觉得很性感。

31）一般的男人穿西服喜欢衬衣上系条领带，束得紧紧的，我却不喜欢系领带，敞开最上的扣子，我觉得这样更性感。

32）从前失恋之时，我都会恨他，恨他为什么这么无情，听到有关他的不好的消息，我都会偷着乐，现在不了，现在即使失去他，我也会祝福他，衷心希望他能过得很好。他过得不好我会很难过。这也是喜欢和爱的一个区别。

33）和聪明的人恋爱会很快乐，因为他们幽默，会说话，但也时时存在着危机，因为这样的人很容易变心。和老实人恋会很放心，但生活却也非常得乏味。

34）女人不要太好强，有的女人自尊心过强。是别人的错她态度很强硬，是自己的错她同样态度很强硬。她总以为去求别人是下贱的表现，她是永远不会求男人的。这样的女人很令人头疼。聪明的女人会知道什么时候该坚强，什么时候该示弱。好强应该对外人，对爱的人这么好强还要不要他呵护你啊？

35）男人大多爱嫖妓，嫖妓的愉悦当然是一原因，还有一个更大的原因就是，和***相处会感觉非常的愉快，想说什么话就说什么话，想干什么就干什么，而且***会撒娇，这让男人感觉自己更像男人，那么，女人为什么不能在床上扮演一个***呢？

36）要看一个人有没有内涵，内看谈吐，外看着装。还可以看写字。谈吐可以看出一个人的学识和修养。着装可以看出一个人的品位，写字可以看出一个人的性格。

37）想知道一个人爱不爱你，就看他和你在一起有没有活力，开不开心，有就是爱，没有就是不爱。

38）有的人老是抱怨找不好人，一两次不要紧，多了就有问题了，首先你要检讨自己本身有没有问题，如果没有，那你就要审视一自己的眼光了，为什么每次坏人总被你碰到？

39）有人说男人一旦变心，九头牛也拉不回，难道女人变心，九头牛就拉得回来吗？男女之间只在生理上有差异，心理方面大同小异。

40）爱情与人品没多大关系，从前有个女同事跟我说她喜欢射雕里的杨康，不喜欢郭靖，我很惊奇，爱坏厌好？后来想想，也没什么，羁等显作父，卖国求荣是不对的。可是他对爱情却很执着，这样的人为什么不能享有爱？现实生活也有这样的例子，古惑仔也有古惑仔的爱情。

41）有人说没有面包的爱情终究会夭折。我说说这话的人不懂什么是爱情。从前恋爱我很反感别人说女方这条件好那条件好。我不管你什么出身，什么学历，什么地位，如果我爱你，你擦皮鞋甚至做***我也无所谓。大人说我幼稚，没有钱怎么过日子？我说有钱没爱过的是什么日子？和自己爱的人在一起，喝水吃腌菜我也是高兴的。

42）如果真爱一个人，就会心甘情愿为他而改变。如果一个人在你面前我行我素，置你不喜欢的行为而不顾，那么他就是不爱你。所以如果你不够关心他或是他不够关心你，那么你就不爱他或他不爱你，而不要以为是自己本来就很粗心或是相信他是一个粗心的人。遇见自己真爱的人，懦夫也会变勇敢，同理，粗心鬼也会变得细心。

43）彼此都有意而不说出来是爱情的最高境界。因为这个时候两人都在尽情的享受媚眼，尽情的享受目光相对时的火热心理，尽情的享受手指相碰时的心惊动魄。一旦说出来，味道会淡许多，因为两人同意以后，所有的行为都是已被许可，已有心理准备的了，到最后渐渐会变得麻木。

44）一个萝卜一个坑，说的是婚姻情况。事实上对于爱情来说，是不成立的，优秀的人，不管男女，都会是一个萝卜好几个坑。所以这个世界上天天演着悲欢离合的故事。

45）性和爱是可以分开的。性其实只是人的一种很正常的生理欲望。就和吃饭喝水一样，饿了就要吃饭，渴了就要喝水。饭我们既可以自己弄着吃，吃完洗碗洗锅放好，也可以去馆子吃，吃完嘴一抹，拍屁股走人。剩下的可以不要。所以对于性，很多人在需求时也会去外面“吃”。吃完付钱走人，不需要把对方带走。但自己做的和外面买的味道是有点不同的，到底谁好谁坏，就看各人的口味了。

46）有两种女人很可爱，一种是妈妈型的，很体贴人，很会照顾人，会把男人照顾的非常周到。和这样的女人在一起，会感觉到强烈的被爱。还有一种是妹妹型的。很胆小，很害羞，非常的依赖男人，和这样的女人在一起，会激发自己男人的个性的显现。比如打老鼠扛重物什么的。会常常想到去保护自己的小女人。还有一种女人既不知道关心体贴人，又从不向男人低头示弱，这样的女人最让男人无可奈何。

47）有外遇并非坏男人的专利，好男人一样有，所以当你遇到这样的男人时，不要一棍子打死，可以试着给一次机会，能改还是可以在一起的。几十年的感情不容易，对于男人的偶尔出轨，有时候不必看得过重。

48）吝啬是男人的大忌，就算穷也不要做出一副穷样。有人抱怨女人只爱男人的钱，其实也并不一定就是这样，有的女人喜欢男人为她花钱，有时候也是为了证实自己在男人心目中的位置，男人如果喜欢一个女人，一定愿意为她花钱的。

49）男女搭配，干活不累。因为在异性面前，男人总喜欢表现自己很男人的一面。这样也才像个男人，所以大男子主义有时候是必须有的。

50）追求爱慕的异性是很常见的说法。其实对方不喜欢你，你再怎么追也没用，对方喜欢你，根本不需要挖空心思去追。或许真有一天他被你的诚意所打动，可最终大多还是会分手的。因为爱情不是感动，你不是他心目中的理想伴侣，即使一时接受你，将来碰上他心仪的那一位，一样会离开你。当然，对于喜欢你的人，你还是需要花点心思去讨好他的，因为这样才像拍拖，才浪漫。

51）经常有人问在朋友和恋人之间叫你选择，你会选择哪一个？其实我觉得这个问题是多余的。真正懂你的朋友或恋人，他们会体谅你的行为，如果不体谅你，因此失去也不必太在意。朋友或恋人是要互相帮助的，而不是硬性迁就的。

52）都说一个成功的男人背后，常常有一个默默无闻的支持他的女人，那一个失败的男人的背后，是不是也常常有一个明明有闻的瞎捣乱的女人呢？

53）曾经沧海难为水，除却巫山不是云。可是如果我还没经沧海或是刚到沧海打了个转就回来，而且也没到过巫山就一头钻进了围城怎么办啊？

54）浪漫是什么？是送花？雨中漫步？楼前伫立不去？如果两人彼此倾心相爱，什么事都不做，静静相对都会感觉是浪漫的。否则，即使两人坐到月亮上拍拖，也是感觉不到浪漫的。

55）是否门当户对不要紧，最重要应该是兴当趣对，不然没有共同语言，即使在一起，仍然会感觉到孤独。

56）学会用理解的，欣赏的眼光去看对方，而不是以自以为是的关心去管对方。

57）幼稚的人和幼稚的人在一起没什么问题，成熟的人和成熟的人一起也没什么问题，成熟的人和幼稚的人一起问题就多了。

58）有的女人恋爱时让男友宠着自己，结婚后仍然要老公百般宠着自己，却忘记做为一个女人应该做的份内之事。这样的女人是不懂得爱情的。

59）持久的爱情源于彼此的发自内心的真爱，建立在平等的基础之上。任何只顾疯狂爱人而 不顾自己有否被爱，或是只顾享受被爱而不知真心爱人的人都不会有好的结局。

Shell Life (Part 7: 6-11Feb: Houston, US Trip)

Ever since I joined my current project, I was given the opportunity to travel to other part of the world. Houston, being my next destination after Wellington, was the first city in US I was going to visit right after my 2006 Chinese New Year break.

It was a nearly 24-hour journey from KL to Houston, with transit at Taipei and LA. Even though I have no problem sleeping and resting in the airplane (in business class ^_<), was extremely tired by the time I reached my hotel room, but was then hooked up to the broadband and start to work :( - thanks to my workaholic colleague who was traveling with me...

Stepping my feet into the land of US at LA international through immigration counter, queuing up with the rest of foreign visitors to get our visit being authorised was not a pleasant experience. With 911 incident, I guess US is now more cautious in admitting foreign visitors into their land.

Staying in the city with one of the biggest size people in the world, finishing the food on my plate may eventually become my biggest challenge. Walking in to a restaurant with people sitting and enjoying their meal might not be a good start for me. I would feel 'full' by looking at the size of the food being served. Well, at least I did enjoy my steak at one of their famous steak house, Pappas Bros, which was recommended by my colleague.

The original planned US trip till 17 Feb was then 'forced' to change due to project urgency. I was asked to travel to Bangalore, India with the rest of the build team to ensure project readiness timeline being met by end of the month. The weekend plan in Houston would have to be cancelled - no chance to do any site-seeing, shopping, and worst, no photos being taken, but another last minute business trip to my 3rd city (country) under the same project, in 2 months time.